Certified Parent

Well…we just had our last environmental inspection of our home to make sure everything is good to go for our future foster kids. Once the state is done with all the paperwork, we’ll be certified parents. Yep.

I find it interesting that we have gone through so much to be able to care for other’s children, yet the normal couple has to do none of these things. But let me stop right there. I do realize there is a difference between what we’re doing, normal healthy parenting, and then the type of parenting that isn’t conducive to a normal or healthy upbringing for a child. I’m not discrediting good parents by any means.

What this goes to show is how easy it is to be a lackadaisical parent and how tough it is to be a proactive parent. (Remember…we don’t have children so much of this stuff is new to us even though I think we’ll be awesome!) It tells me there are days where the parents just don’t have energy to go to the park. Between work, housekeeping, meals, and other various grown up responsibilities, taking care of a child is a TON of work (even when giving the most basic care.)

Did you know that smoke alarms expire? Yeah…so $200 later, we have all new alarms and a carbon monoxide detector. I thought…this is normal house upkeep, but I wouldn’t have known this had it not been for my house having to get a fire inspection. We made a fire escape plan in MS Word and posted it on our fridge. We’ve been to lots of people’s homes. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a fire escape plan lol!

Going the extra mile to play with them, talk to them, read with them, to really listen to what they have to say…it all adds up and can seem like a mountain of responsibility. And that’s not having to meet with a child advocate, judges, social services, and the birth parents. Going through the process of making our home ready for kids is a little eye opening to the work parents have to put in to making a house a home.

As usual, I get into my head and think, oh my gosh, this is going to be crazy. Going from no children to possibly 3 is really insane. But, I easily overwhelm myself. I’m sure once we get a child or 3, we will get into a routine and adjust to the changes. This is something all families must do. Like anything that is worth doing, it takes work. Could we be somewhat lazy-ish foster parents? Probably. But that isn’t why we’re doing this so it’d defeat the purpose of pouring time and love into a foster child. Plus, the snuggles are going to make it all worthwhile 🙂

Love each other 🙂

~Jason

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2 thoughts on “Certified Parent

  1. Awww, Honey, I love you so much. Thank you for all your hard work the past few months. You have certainly turned into a wonderful handy man. Let me list them for folks that don’t know….
    1. replaced 3 new sinks with all new faucets
    2. new smoke detectors/carbon monoxide detectors
    3. built bunk beds (plus the whole disaster of not getting all the parts)
    4. chose/bought curtains by yourself voluntarily
    5. put child locks on all kinds of cabinets
    6. new door knob
    7. built a dresser
    8. bought/built a small outside cabinet for chemicals (with a lock)
    9. sat/participated through a very sweet shower thrown for us
    10. hours spent shopping for bedding
    11. cleaning out the very scary junk drawer/organizing it
    12. cleaning out cabinets voluntarily
    13. billions of hours of MAPPS homework
    14. I am sure there is more!

    But the most important thing through this whole journey is how much you seem to be enjoying it. You are good at it. You never complained. You always kept your smile. You are going to be such a wonderful foster daddy! Everybody already knew that. 🙂 I am so proud to be your girl. I am happy to share you with some really special kiddos.

    I love you ~Misty

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